Monday, December 22, 2014

Holiday Time

     Greetings to one and all during this holiday season.  I wish you Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah and Joyous Kwanza.  This is a difficult time for me and you.  We must celebrate however feels best in our hearts.  We cannot force ourselves to be merry if we are not.  Or to be social if we long for solitude.  Even when there are other children to make a holiday for, ask for help for those things you simply feel you cannot do.  I find it helpful to do something-- a little gift for my son or in memory of my son-- to bring him into the celebration in some way.  This helps me to celebrate as well. 

     Saying a prayer, making a toast or serving a favorite dish of your lost child can help also.  If you celebrate his or her life, it makes for less guilt if you want to celebrate your holiday. I find it so for myself.  Again, it is not an easy time.  If you do not want to celebrate or are not ready to be with people, that is okay too.  There will always be holidays in the coming years.  Do whatever you can and what is best for you.  Tell friends and family of your intentions calmly and firmly. Do not be drawn into long discussions and explanations.

     So sorry you have not heard form me in a while.  As I have mentioned in previous blogs, I have not been well.  I will have to have surgery in early January.  You may not hear from me for several weeks after that.  I ask for your prayers and positive energy for a good outcome to my surgery and a speedy recovery.

     May you find some peace over the holidays and in the upcoming weeks.



  1. Wishing you a successful surgery and a fast recovery.

  2. Dear Graham Forever in My Heart,

    Thank you so much for your good wishes. they are much appreciated

  3. I am doing well following my surgery. Spent overnight in the hospital & got very good care. Having visiting nurse daily which helps. I am making a little more progress each day & am pleased. Doctor said I made the right decision & it will take time to heal.