Many of us are angry at God for not sparing our children's lives from an illness or serious accident, an act of violence, suicide, a miscarriage or a life threatening birth defect. We ask God, "How could you let this happen?" "Where were you God?" "Did you not hear my prayers?" "How could you not let me see my child was so troubled, in so much trouble?"
Hard as it is to accept and comprehend, God or our Higher Power is there to hear our prayers, our wailing, our cries, our suffering. We need to tell Him we are so angry at Him and why. Get it all out. Then take some deep breaths to calm down. Take a little time. Pray and ask God how He can help us not to forsake our faith in Him.
Try to realize He knows of our distress and wants each and everyone of us to find relief. And to find some meaning from our child's life and death. God is there with us guiding us to inspire us and to enlighten us. This will take time and faith to understand. Don't give up. Stay with me. Like I have said many times, we are not guaranteed perfection in this life. So we must play the cards we are dealt and come up with a life plan.
In the Catholic religion it is customary to offer one's pain and suffering for a greater good. For example, when I am down about my son or in pain from my spine or fibromyalgia, I offer my suffering for the rescuing of the many children who are being sex trafficked, torn from their homes and forced into prostitution and pornography. I pray they will be found and returned to their parents and family or otherwise get the safety, care snd love they need. I pray my son Chris will get the truth and justice he deserves.
Perhaps we can all find a way to channel our pain. And a way to memorialize our children---a tree; a bench; a run; raising money for the cause of their death; raising awareness of the signs of suicide; speaking about the dangers of drunk driving and the dangers of street and internet drugs; file a lawsuit to raise awareness of product dangers; file a medical lawsuit to raise awareness of the dangers of poor medical care; join a support group and get grief counseling.
Spread information. Save kids lives and keep other parents from going through what we have gone through. Have faith and ask God for guidance. I chose to write this blog as a way to help other parents who have gone through what I have been through. We must each find our own path to handle the pain of our children's deaths. I chose my faith in God, a support group, individual grief counseling, and writing a blog. There are many options above. We have a way to process our grief and help other parents' grief journey. Have courage.
"I am in trouble, God---listen to my prayer. Psalm 64: 1
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