With the weight of our sorrows after the loss of our children, reconnecting with family, friends, co-workers and outside society in general, seems like trying to step onto a moving carousel. The world is whirling and we cannot catch up.
Imagery can help. Picture a door frame. We are on one side with our sorrow, bitterness, anger, regrets and uncertainties. Step into the doorway and picture and feel all our negative emotions melting off of us. Stay in the frame as these emotions pour out and melt away like a puddle beneath our feet. Pray to be released from these negative emotions. Now, leave them behind with a big sigh of relief.
Walk through the door. Picture your child well, happy and healthy and bathed in a bright light. He or she is saying, "I'm all right Mom/Dad. I am safe and happy. I have plenty of friends and lots to do. I miss you. I know you miss me, but, I am okay." Embrace the feeling of relief which will come. Cry if you need to.
Practice this imagery whenever feeling down or you have to go to work, care for living children, do chores or need to go outside the home. Take the bright light with you along with your child's image and assurances.
Have faith one day we will be reunited with our children in God's time. Be patient. All will be well. With this imagery, we have managed now to step onto the moving carousel of life. We have come to the other side of the door to the "New Normal." To new possibilities with our family, friends and the demands of every day living.
"......The human heart and mind are a mystery." Psalm 64: 6
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